Life doesn’t come with an instruction manual, so here are the last 5 brutal truths which people never give enough time to address, these are the things most people tend to brush off under the carpet and pretend that these just don’t exist, because it’s easier this way.
11: Happiness comes from what you do for others
Most people you’ll meet in this life, all are out for themselves. Everyone is trying as hard as they can to make themselves happy, successful or whatever their own definition of success is.
The hard truth on happiness, is that you can not achieve sustainable happiness by being the single person impacted by your actions. You can achieve glimpses of happiness, but they will not stick around.
Happiness doesn’t come from things, it comes from the way other people feel!
Which happen to brush off onto you, especially if you’re the one who created their happiness in the first place.
This is such a strong truth, because people fail to realise this until late in life, everyone is pursuing their own happiness and even if they get all the money in the world, all the fame in the world they realise they still haven’t got it yet and it leads to depression or even worse.
This happens because the entire concept is counter intuitive, while in most life objectives you need to take care of yourself before you can take care of anyone else, when it comes to happiness the world seems to be flipped, you take care of others and the result is you taking care of yourself.
Let that sink in for a while and then have a look at your own life:
- Are you happy?
- What generated this particular happiness?
- Who is responsible for it?
- Which actions led to your state of happiness?
- When’s the last time you made someone happy?
The answers to all these questions will give you a better understanding of your own happiness and which actions caused it.
Once you know that, hunt that feeling and get to it as close as possible.
12: Being busy doesn’t mean you’re doing anything worthwhile
Please.. remember.. This!!!
Write it big on your vision board or somewhere you will be constantly reminded to check your reality.
Being busy does not mean you’re adding value to your life or to those around you.
One of the most shocking things we’ve learned is our research is how many people are constantly busy but never manage to move the needle ahead for their own.
This has to do with people allotting way more time and resources than needed to things which are URGENT but NOT IMPORTANT!
We understand you need to clean the house and get toilet paper from the store, but if that’s what keeps you busy every single day you won’t have any time to get anything done that actually has an impact on your life.
The most important pillars in someone’s life are health, relationships, self-development & freedom with security.
If an action doesn’t fall into these 4 in a positive way it’s probably not important for you and those around you.
We all have things that we have to get done, things that put food on the table and more, the idea is to escape the trap of doing only those things and never getting around for the really important ones.
When’s the last time you did something important for yourself? Maybe it’s time to prioritise those and stop wasting time.
Related blog post: Is Being Busy A Choice Or A Curse?
13:Everyone you know will eventually die, including yourself.
This is probably the most important reality check you’ll ever get while you’re alive.
It’s one of the harshest truths we all have to deal with at some point in our lives. Your mother, your father, your siblings, your dog, your loved ones & you, are mortal and at one point every single one will cease to exist.
This alone is a strong enough reason to appreciate everything you have in your life! Holding grudges is stupid, deal with the tiny problems and don’t forget to tell anyone who’s important to you how much you care for them and how important they are to you.
Mend your relationships, especially with those who made a difference in your journey because you might not get a second chance to do so.
After your relationships affairs are in a good place, it’s time to get serious about your life.
YOU WILL DIE ONE DAY!
So why the hell do you want to live a boring life?
You should do whatever is in your power to create the life you want to live, because you only get this one!
It doesn’t matter if you believe in heaven or not, why wouldn’t you make heaven here on Earth? Especially for you and those around you.
There aren’t any higher goals that living a live that meant something and which added value to the world as we know it.
Related blog post: Find Beauty In The Little Things
14: Your urgent problems won’t matter 5 years from now
You know the test you have next week, the project you’re rushing to complete, the fact that your contractor is late on your latest development project, all of them stress you out and open the door for emotions to take control.
What we’re about to tell you can easily change your life if you pay attention and save this tool in your arsenal for success.
Here it goes:
Ask yourself if what you are stressing about today, will matter in 5 years from now.
If yes, then it’s time to get even more serious about it and make sure you get it right.
On the other hand, if you’re not even going to remember it in 5 years, why the hell are we spending so much time and resources on it, just get it done so you can move on to more important things.
The 5 Year rule can help you understand which actions are in your best interest and remove at least some noise from your life if used correctly.
It’s one of those tools that look simple enough but very few people actually take the time to use it and that’s how you end up trapped in a rat race.
Related blog posts: Creating A 5 Year Plan
15: You are a tiny organism, on a rock, floating through space
On our final item on this list, we want to double down on this idea that daily struggles steal away your life from you without giving much back.
The truth is you are not special, you are an organism which shares this floating rock with another 8 billion who are just like you and another 70 billion living things who don’t even know you exist.
There is a concept which we truly find fascinating called: THE OVERVIEW EFFECT
It’s something that astronauts get to experience when leaving Earth and looking back at it from a distance. Once you’re in space, you can see how tiny the entire world is, how we’re all in conflict for things which do not matter, and from a nihilistic point of view, individuals don’t matter.
You are part of an entire living colony which doesn not care about the problems of the individual because they don’t really matter. They matter to you, but not the colony.
It’s one of those things we plan on experiencing before we die, because the overview effect changes the way you look at things, at worries, at problems, at disappointments and more.
Look at the left of the screen right now, this is our planet viewed from space, you are somewhere on this rock a tiny dot that worries about the smallest details which from this far up are non existent.
Try to run this experiment on your own and see what you can uncover about yourself.
A Final Thought
It’s time we all stopped thinking so small, faced the harsh truths of life, accept those which we can accept and do our best to live a life that’s valuable.
I’m curious to know Freedom Seekers, which of these 5 brutal truths above had the biggest impact on you as you were reading?
Which of these do you believe will actually make a change in your future actions?
Let me know in the comments, I’ll do my best to engage the most interesting ones..
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With that said, I will see you all in the next one.