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2 Steps To Knock Down Your Barriers

We all face barriers in our life, and sometimes we wish we had a magic wand to make them disappear. I haven’t found that magic wand yet, but I have two tips for you that might help you knock down those barriers you are facing today.

Step #1: Be Self-Aware

Being self-aware simply means that you can observe yourself from a non-judgmental perspective. When you are self-aware, you can catch yourself in the present moment experiencing a specific state, reaction, or feeling.

The more you are aware of your emotions, the more you start to understand yourself. For example, you might observe that you tend to be reactive when someone provides you with a suggestion on how to do something different, or you catch yourself nervously laughing at a situation that isn’t funny. When you are aware of your emotions, you have a better idea of who you are and how you tend to react in certain situations. It is also the best way to improve yourself on certain aspects that you don’t find optimal. You become less driven by drama.

Not only will self-awareness help you remove the barriers in your life, but it will also help you with the following:

  • Experience a greater ability to recognize your emotions
  • Improve your critical thinking
  • Improve your relationships
  • Live in the present moment
  • Experience more joy and happiness

Self-awareness is the key to live a life without barriers.

Step #2: Build your self-esteem

Self-esteem is the way we perceive or evaluate our worth and is the ultimate belief we place on ourselves. People with high self-esteem tend not to see problems as a barrier but an opportunity for growth. On the other hand, people with low self-esteem will often stop themselves from doing something because they feel they are not capable of.

You can increase your self-esteem by appreciating yourself. Have the goal of becoming your best friend. Take some time to hang out with yourself once in a while. It will help you build a level of comfort in being by yourself. Add some self-care during those moments; it will help you increase self-respect. Compassion toward ourselves and self-love will often lead to better self-esteem and higher self-confidence. No barriers will stand in your way.

Those are my two tips comment below and let me know which one resonates most with you.

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Self Love And The Cure For Imposter Syndrome

Everybody struggles with their sense of identity at some point in their life. We idolise others, search for perfection outside ourselves, and let our envy get the best of us.

It’s great to draw inspiration from those we admire, but where do you draw the line?

If you find yourself jumping from obsession to obsession or trying to force an image that is just not you onto those you’re close to, you may find your sense of identity becoming even more muddled and frustrating.

Imposter Syndrome

When I was in secondary school, I had a new identity I was trying to peddle every day, and it devastated me when no one believed it. I hated being told to ‘be myself’ because I didn’t know what that meant. I had zero self confidence because I didn’t have any sense of self in the first place.

When I was researching for this post, I came across this definition of imposter syndrome and really love it.

“The imposter syndrome is a psychological term referring to a pattern of behavior where people doubt their accomplishments and have a persistent, often internalized fear of being exposed as a fraud.” Psychology Today

It’s when you have a story in your head about why you’ve achieved what you have and you validate it externally instead of attributing it to yourself. It’s like there’s a main external reason you’re winning and it’s not you. Example: getting into college because you were on a sports scholarship so really it wasn’t because you were smart enough. Or running a business “full time” but really it’s because your husband financially supported you.

Imposter syndrome is really the feeling of either 1) self doubt, 2) inadequacy, 3) fear, or 4) shame.

It’s always based in self doubt.

It’s believing you don’t deserve what you have created.

It’s feeling afraid the other shoe is going to drop.

It’s not allowing yourself to be present with what you’ve created.

It’s pushing away something good. It’s immediately anticipating it leaving.

It’s falsely believing you’re unworthy. Your worth is 100%. You just have a low opinion of yourself and that’s totally optional to you.

I would say the first step to curing Imposter Syndrome, and finding out how to ‘be yourself’, is to stop caring what other people think.

1. Don't Look At Yourself Through Other People's Eyes

This happened for me shortly after I left school and started spending more time by myself. I’m not saying that isolating yourself from everyone (especially not the people you care about) is a good idea, but you should be putting more energy into just enjoying the time you have on your own. Be as comfortable as possible; do whatever your heart desires. It will help you to find a clearer sense of what you like to feel and do better than when you’re around other people. That brings us to step two.

"Care less about what the other people think, because at the end of the day everyone is so worried about themselves and how they are coming across that nobody is judging as much as y'all think they are."

2. Embrace Your Strengths

Everybody has something they’re good at, some niche, a word that will always be a go-to adjective to describe themselves.

Most people might say ‘creative’, ‘intelligent’, ‘compassionate’, etc. The trick is to pick words that reflect who you are, not who you wish you were. So even though I would really like to define myself as ‘successful’, I’m going to go with ‘playful’. And if you’re having trouble coming up with a word, for whatever reason, here’s one for every single one of you (ironically enough): unique.

Side Note: There are no variations or levels of the word ‘unique’. You cannot say that something is more unique than something else. The word itself means ‘one of a kind’.

3. Idolise Yourself

Think of all the attributes your fake persona would have.

You know, that person you pretend to be or wish you were. Are they a totally independent badass a la Lisbeth Salander? Or maybe you wish you were pretty, bubbly, and popular like Elle Woods.

It doesn’t matter what it is.

Usually, the people you idolise (fictional or not) resemble some part of you, that’s where the attraction comes from.

So if you find yourself bouncing between lots of idols and identities, focus on what you like about them and where to find those attributes within yourself. Instead of dying your hair or dressing like said person, look at their other characteristics (not the physical ones like demeanor and looks).

If someone seems really cool and independent, focus on becoming more independent in your own life and embracing the ways you already are. Learn to idolise yourself!

A Final Thought

As long as your goal is bigger than your current life, you’re going to feel inadequate because if you already felt adequate, you’d already have the result.

Know this.

Practice overcoming imposter syndrome by following the steps above. At each level of growth and success you’ll need to do this.

It’s 100% always worth it.

I hope you have found the above educational. Please feel free to contact me and I’ll leave you with that.

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The Slight Edge Principles

The Slight Edge says the things we do or don’t do every day, compound over time to move us closer or farther away from our goals.

While it may not seem like a lot if you just decide to take it easy for a day or two, over time this actually has a massive effect. Just improving yourself by .1% every single day, will add up tremendously over time.

The Slight Edge is a philosophy. It is a way of thinking. The Slight Edge is, therefore, an important tool or processor of information in the self-help world.

“This book can be described as the how-to of all the how-to’s out there.”

The author emphasizes how there is so much information out there and somehow people’s lives are not changing. The Slight Edge is, therefore, a way of taking this information and implementing it in your life. It is a way of processing the information in the self-help books.

  • Our results and lifestyle are because of our actions
    • Our actions are due to our attitudes
      • And our attitudes are due to our philosophy

The Seven Slight Edge Principles can be used every day for your personal and business life. They are:

1. Show Up:

“Be the frog who not only decides to jump off the lily pad,” writes Olson, “but actually jumps”.

Believe it or not, showing up means winning half the battle – because basically one out of two people don’t.

“The world is rife with hesitation,” comments Olson, and, unfortunately, hesitation is “the cornerstone of mediocrity.”

You don’t want to live a life of not trying.

As “Nike” says – just do it.

You’ll have plenty of time to think about it later.

2. Be Consistent:

80% of success may be showing up – as Woody Allen famously quipped once – but only if it means showing up consistently.

If you will commit to showing up consistently,” notes Olson, “every day, no matter what, then you have already won well more than half the battle. The rest is up to skill, knowledge, drive, and execution.

How do you measure effectiveness if what you are measuring isn’t performed consistently? Be consistent.

3. Have a Good Attitude:

If you had a nickel every time some self-help author told you this – well, you’ll have a lot of nickels!

But, have you ever wondered why so many people have written volumes and volumes about the power of positive thinking?

There’s a simple reason: it works!

So, from now on, the glass isn’t just half full – it’s overflowing!

And when I say “from now on,” I mean starting today!

"Each of us has the ability to put our unique human potential into action and to acquire a desired result. But the one thing that determines the level of our potential—that produces the intensity of our activity and predicts the quality of the result we receive—is our attitude."

4. Be Committed for a Long Period of Time:

From Malcolm Gladwell’s “Outliers” to Matthew Syed’s “Bounce”, they all say the same: if you put in about 10,000 hours of practice, no endeavor is impossible.

That’s about eight hours a day, forty hours a week, fifty weeks a year, for five years.

Are you willing to sacrifice as much to excel in something?

Jim Rohn also relates to the Biblical story, The Parable of the Sower. The sower committed to sowing seed regardless of the outcome. Keep sowing, sowing and sowing (thus making it a habit) and you’ll eventually reap the harvest.

5. Have Faith and a Burning Desire:

The power of “desire backed by faith” is what Napoleon Hill said was the driving force behind all successful people.

I believe in the power of desire backed by faith,” he wrote in his unforgettable classic, “Think and Grow Rich,” because I have seen this power lift men from lowly beginnings to places of power and wealth; I have seen it rob the grave of its victims; I have seen it serve as the medium by which men staged a comeback after having been defeated in a hundred different ways.

Another important tip is to be specific about what you want and write it down!

"There is one quality which one must possess to win, and that is definiteness of purpose, and the knowledge of what one wants, and a burning desire to possess it."

6. Be Willing to Pay the Price:

If you want to put 10,000 hours into something you will have to put a lot less into something else. That’s just how it goes. But it’s not that bad: it ultimately more than pays off. It’s just something you need to be aware of. That way – and that way only – you’ll be able to live in the present.

Jeff Olson says, “Anything worth having is worth working and paying a price for.

Zig Zilar said; “You do not pay the price of success, you enjoy the price of success.

Following the Slight Edge Principles will keep you on track.

7. Practice Slight Edge Integrity:

Edgar Guest, America’s beloved English-born People’s Poet, once wrote a great little poem called My Creed.”

Among its lines, there’s a famous distich you should take really seriously: “to be the same when I’m alone/ As when my every deed is known.”

That’s called integrity.

Integrity and character are demonstrated as by what you do when no one’s looking. Be true to yourself first.

The compounding effect of the Slight Edge Principles works both ways.

What’s easy to do is also easy not to do.

Success is a compilation of small daily decisions. Missing a day or two or three might go unnoticed for a while but the compounding effect of good and bad decisions eventually work for you or against you.

Key Lessons from “The Slight Edge”

1. The Simple Philosophy of the Slight Edge

If you save a penny today and double the amount you save each passing day, by the end of the month, you will have earned £10 million pounds!

If you improve in any area of your choice just 1% on a daily basis, by the end of the given year, you will be 365% better!

That’s the essence of the slight edge philosophy: steady wins the race.

Or, in other words, by making the same small step day by day – in time, you’ll have walked a thousand miles.

Laozi said that.

And he was a smart guy.

2. The Three Simple Steps to Your Dreams

Achieving a goal is nothing difficult.

It’s based on three simple steps.

First, you need to write it down and give the goal both a what and a when (i.e., a clear, detailed description, and a specific timeline).

Then, don’t forget about it. Look at it every day, and “soak your subconscious in it.”

Finally, start with a plan. May it be as simple as possible in the beginning. Remember – the point, for now, is to start acting.

A Final Thought

The Slight Edge: Turning Simple Disciplines Into Massive Success, written by Jeff Olson, is quite an amazing book with a ton of real world advice that you can use daily. The major point is understanding that anyone can have a slight edge in their life by doing the small tasks in life that unsuccessful people neglect to follow through with. Continue making great choices, whether the short term consequences are small or large, and you will live an amazing life following the Slight Edge principle.

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How To Set Goals

Have you ever felt like you have so many dreams and potential but like nothing is happening?

I feel like that some days and I realised that those are the days when I have nothing planned and I’m just wandering around the house. I feel like so many of us wander through life not fulfilling our potential and feeling stuck, (especially right now in 2020 when Coronavirus has forced us to be at home). 

The good news is there is a cure for that. That cure, is making a plan and taking action to bring your plan to life.

Tell me, what is it you plan to do with your one wild and precious life?

Why Set Goals?

Top-level athletes, successful business people and achievers in all fields all set goals. Setting goals gives you long-term vision and short-term motivation . It focuses your acquisition of knowledge, and helps you to organise your time and your resources so that you can make the most of your life.

By setting sharp, clearly defined goals, you can measure and take pride in the achievement of those goals, and you’ll see forward progress in what might previously have seemed a long pointless grind. You will also raise your self-confidence , as you recognise your own ability and competence in achieving the goals that you’ve set.

How to Set Goals - 6 Step Process

Step 1: Create Visions For Your Life

Before you set individual goals, consider the main life categories like health, relationships, finance, etc.

In each area of your life, before you create goals, create a vision. That is to say, write down what you believe in (your values) and what you want for your future. It is fruitless to create a goal without having an overarching vision because you won’t know why you’re setting your goal, and when you reach it, you won’t feel as good about it.

Examples below:

🌱 Productivity – Do you want to achieve any artistic or creative goals?

🌱 Family – Do you want to be a parent? If so, how are you going to be a good parent? How do you want to be seen by a partner or by members of your extended family?

🌱 Health – Are there any athletic goals that you want to achieve, or do you want good health deep into old age? What steps are you going to take to achieve this?

🌱Love – Do you want to have a partner or stay single? If you want a partner, what type of relationship do you want?

🌱 Work – What level do you want to reach in your career, or what do you want to achieve?

🌱 Fun – How do you want to enjoy yourself? (You should ensure that some of your life is for you!)

🌱 Money – How much do you want to earn, by what stage? How is this related to your career goals?

🌱 Personal Growth – Is there any knowledge you want to acquire in particular? What information and skills will you need to have in order to achieve other goals?

🌱 Attitude – Is any part of your mindset holding you back? Is there any part of the way that you behave that upsets you? (If so, set a goal to improve your behavior or find a solution to the problem.)

🌱 Public Service – Do you want to make the world a better place? If so, how?

Step 2: Think And Reflect Upon Where You Are Now (Take Inventory)

After you know what you want, you need to check in with yourself and “take inventory” of where you are right now.

Look at each area of your life and write down the status of where you are. Be honest with yourself. If you’re in an unhappy relationship, write that down. Being honest with yourself will help you make the necessary changes in order to move you toward the life you want to live. Do this for every area of your life.

Step 3: Create An Overarching Plan For Each Category

With each life category written down, decide on one big, overarching plan to lead you toward your vision for that category.

For example, if your financial vision is to become financially free and be an example to your children, your corresponding, overarching plan could be to become debt free (and stay out of debt) and build wealth.

The vision is something that is a way of life; it’s your legacy. The overarching plan is the biggest goal you set to get there — it’s something that is attainable. After you set your overarching plan, you’ll then be able to set smaller goals that are measurable and attainable.

 

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Step 4: Set Your Goals

After you know what you want (vision), where you are (inventory), and your main plan of getting to where you want to go, you are ready to set goals.

A goal is an achievable aim or target in the future.

One of the most popular goal-setting strategies is the S.M.A.R.T. acronym.

Goals should be:

  • Specific (not vague)
  • Measurable (detailed)
  • Achievable (attainable given where you are now)
  • Relevant (related to the area of your life that needs improvement)
  • Timely (with a definite deadline)

This means that when you create goals, they should be narrow, in writing, achievable, and have a deadline. Goals can be long-term goals (over one year) or short-term goals (less than one year). You can do this for all areas of your life, or you can focus on a few areas that you want to change the most. Examples of long-term benchmarks are: 5 years out, 10 years out, and 20 years out. Short-term benchmarks for goals include anything less than 1 year, such as one week or 12 months.

A good way to know whether you’re setting appropriate goals is to follow Michael Hyatt’s advice and ask whether you are

  1. staying inside your comfort zone (bad),
  2. getting outside your comfort zone (good), or
  3. being delusional (bad).

You want to set goals that stretch you outside your comfort zone (i.e. that are a reach for you), but not so far of a reach that they’re delusional.

Decide what categories you want to create goals for (as little as one category up to all categories), and get to writing. Keep in mind that the more goals you have at one time, the harder it is to focus. It may be more effective for you to focus on 1-4 goals for the first half of the year and the remaining 4 life categories in the second half of the year. Or, if you are only struggling in one area of your life, it may make sense for you to focus on that category for the entire year, setting goals only for that area of your life until it has improved. Only you know where you stand, so choose your goals wisely. Use your inventories from above to determine where you should focus your energy.

I also recommend using tools that will help you ensure you’ll achieve your goals. The best tool I’ve seen for this (and I’ve tried a lot of them), is The Dailygreatness Journal. It’s a journaling book that teaches you how to accomplish your goal in 90 days. I use it and find it very easy and helpful.

Examples of two bad goals:

  1. Get on track financially this year.
  2. Be more careful with my credit card.

Examples of two good goals:

  1. Create monthly budgets the first of every month for the following month with my husband.
  2. Pay off my credit card every month and stop using it for everything except groceries.

In the bad set of examples, you can see how the goals are vague and do not have deadlines. In the good set of examples, the goals are specific and timely. Both of these goals are written down which is incredibly important, too.

Step 5: Implement Your Goals

Implement your goals by taking action. This may seem obvious, but I believe implementation and planning needs to be a separate step because it is the difference between success and failure.

The reason I am so productive and accomplish my goals is because they are concrete and always on my calendar (I use Gmail’s calendar and always have it in the month view so I can visualize what is coming up in the next week and month). If I don’t use my calendar to plan my goals, I have about a 20% success rate. I have found it is the little things (habits and systems) that make success possible (and almost guaranteed) for me.

Whatever calendar you use, put your goals on it as deadlines.

Also, put a weekly “goals check-in” on your calendar. Your deadlines will keep you on track and focused. Your weekly check-ins will allow you to make changes and plan accordingly with respect to your deadlines. Perhaps this means that every week you put on your calendar “work on goals” on Saturday morning at 10am. Whatever works for you, the key is to plan it. If you plan it, it will happen. If you don’t check-in with yourself, you won’t give yourself the opportunity to make changes based on your circumstances. For example, if you plan to train for a marathon and put deadlines on your calendar but you’re injured two weeks into training, it doesn’t make sense for you to keep those goals on your calendar. You need to make changes accordingly.

Step 6: The 4 R’S — Reward, Reflect, Revise, AND Repeat

As I alluded to above, you are going to need to make changes. As much as you try to plan your life, you can only do so much. There are circumstances that are beyond your control (like Covid-19) that will happen. And there are circumstances that will lead you to change what you want. While you may think you know what you want in 5 years, you may end up being way off.

Enter the 4 R’s. First, you should reward yourself after accomplishing any goal. We’re creatures of positive reinforcement and you’ll have more success if you reward yourself. Second, reflect on your progress and think about the journey as time passes. Without reflection it will be hard for you to learn and grow. Third, revise your visions, plans, and goals over time. As you change, so should your goals. Revision can take place during your check-ins so that you keep moving forward in the direction you want as things change. Finally, repeat the process by continuing to make and write down new goals as time goes on.

A Final Thought

Goal setting is an important method for:

🌱 Deciding what you want to achieve in your life.
🌱 Separating what’s important from what’s irrelevant, or a distraction.
🌱 Motivating yourself.
🌱 Building your self-confidence, based on successful achievement of goals.

Set your lifetime goals first. Then, set a five-year plan of smaller goals that you need to complete if you are to reach your lifetime plan. Keep the process going by regularly reviewing and updating your goals. And remember to take time to enjoy the satisfaction of achieving your goals when you do so.

If you don’t already set goals, do so, starting now. As you make this technique part of your life, you’ll find your career accelerating, and you’ll wonder how you did without it!

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Use Your Morning Routine To Design A Life You Love

Successful people aren’t born that way. They become successful by establishing the habit of doing things unsuccessful people don’t like to do. The successful people don’t always like these things themselves; they just get on and do them.

William Makepeace Thackeray Tweet

For as long as I can remember, people are always asking me how I’m able to do everything I do –  I work full time on my business, run a blog on the side, maintain relationships with friends and family, eat a healthy diet as much as possible, read, listen to podcasts, journal, practice my faith.

I am not perfect, and I make a lot of mistakes, but I have managed to master my days so that I’m living intentionally and designing a life I love.

The way I have managed to do this is in large part by having a plan for my mornings. My morning routine – the time before my work day starts – is my secret sauce.

I highly recommend using a morning routine to change your life or accomplish any goal you want.

The reason the morning is the best time for designing your dream life is because the busyness and interruptions of the day haven’t started yet. You are in control and acting instead of reacting to the day.

Here’s what I recommend and think can help you maximise your mornings so you can get results you actually want in your life.

1. Plan Time For Your Morning Routine

The first step to remaking your mornings to design a life you love is to plan time in the morning for it.

I know that it feels like you don’t have time for it and it may even be exhausting. But isn’t it exhausting living how you’re living now?

You deserve better.

By getting up an hour or two before your workday starts, you are making a conscious choice to start your day investing in yourself. This choice alone can affect your outlook on life and increase your happiness because you will feel like you’re making the choice to live your dream life (compared to rolling out of bed after you hit snooze four times and are running late for work).

I get up at 5:50am every day. I go to bed around 10pm-11pm every night. Sleep is important to me, so really my morning routine starts the night before.

If 5:50am sounds crazy to you and you think you’ll be exhausted, start smaller. Get up just 30 minutes earlier every day. Then adjust to 45 minutes. You don’t have to start big. You can start small. Making a small change over time can have a huge impact on your life.

Beautiful Benefits to Rising Early:

  •  watch the sun rise
  • enjoy the quiet, uninterrupted time
  • work on a project for an hour or two before the day has begun
  • work on a hobby
  • exercise in the morning air
  • listen to the birdsong
  • relish the fact that the day has started on your terms
  • meditate, pray or practice mindfulness
  • enjoy the simple pleasure of a tea or coffee
  • be up, dressed and ready for the day before the rest of the house wakes

2. Decide What You Want To Do With That Time (Set Goals)

During your morning routine, you need to have a specific plan. It’s too dang early to wake up and have to make decisions about how to spend that time! Instead, plan it out ahead of time (at least the day before).

To get started maximising this time, decide what it is you want. I like to use what I call the 8 life categories to decide where to start. Here they are:

  1. Health
  2. Relationships
  3. Finances
  4. Career
  5. Personal and spiritual development
  6. Environment (organization)
  7. Recreation or fun
  8. Service

It’s up to you to decide what you want to use this time for. It should be spent doing something that helps you design your dream life.

A few common themes I hear from readers that may help are:

My morning routine involves journaling (personal development), listening to podcasts (personal development and spiritual development), and blogging (career and finance). In a perfect world it would involve reading, too, but right now, I save that for either lunch or at night.

There is a certain formula you can use from The Miracle Morning by Hal Elrod called The Life S.A.V.E.R.S. This will give you a plan for how to design a personal development plan during the morning that helps you live intentionally and lead your dream life. You will learn how to meditate or pray, give daily affirmations, read, create visualizations, journal, and exercise – all in one morning routine.

If you’re still not sure where to start for deciding what you want to use your morning routine for, here are a few resources:

Deciding and prioritizing what your dream life looks like is important. Otherwise, you’ll just waste the extra time on things that don’t matter. You won’t progress toward what you want. You’ll just be tired! 🙂 Instead, plan, plan, plan!

3. Schedule Tasks For Each Time Period

Once you have decided what you want to accomplish during your morning routine, you need to set a specific schedule for it.

The more detailed your schedule for the morning, the better. This takes all decision-making out of the equation, which is important because you will be more likely to do it if you don’t have to think about it.

Examples of how to do this are:

  • 5:50 to 6:00 – Get up, make a drink, brush teeth
  • 6:00 to 6:10 – Meditation
  • 6:10 to 6:20 – Affirmations
  • 6:20 to 6:25 – Visualisation
  • 6:25 to 6:30 – Journalling
  • 6:30 to 6:50 – Reading
  • 6:50 to 7:00 – Exercise

This is just an example. The point is to schedule down to the minute so you don’t have to spend time deciding how to use your time in the morning.

I use my gCalendar for scheduling down to the minute like in the example above. I use The Greatness Journal for setting my highest priorities and goals for the week. It’s amazing. 

4. Evaluate Your Progress

Once you implement your morning routine, you need to take time to evaluate how it’s going. You need to know if it’s actually working for you. There’s no sense in continuing something if you’re not seeing the results you want.

Every week, I recommend reviewing how the week went. If you don’t like the results you’re seeing, make changes.

A Final Thought!

To get an actual plan that shows you how to master your mornings, read Miracle Morning: The Not-So Obvious Secret Guaranteed To Transform Your Life By 8AM by Hal Elrod.

This book comes with everything you need to get started remaking your morning routine into a personal development plan where you create your dream life.

It’s absolutely worth the time it takes to maximise your mornings to create your dream life.

Additional Tips On Rising Early

Here are four additional tips you can use to help you rise up early.

  1. Choose to adjust gradually, or do it suddenly. Try a gradual shift of 10-15 minutes every few days until you reach your ideal wake-up time. This means you’re less likely to suffer from exhaustion or hitting the snooze button repeatedly. This gradual approach may work perfectly for you. If not – simply set your alarm and get up 🙂
  2. Make yourself get out of bed. E.g. Leave your alarm/mobile on the other side of the room, adjust sound (quietly enough not to wake anyone else) and jump out of bed to turn it off as quickly as possible. You can also use the five second rule as a tool to get up. 
  3. Go to bed earlier. Establish how much sleep you need to function well and work backwards. What’s your bedtime goal? Then aim to meet it every night for a week and see how you feel.
  4. Have a good reason to get up. If you need added motivation to get out of bed earlier, have something to look forward to or a particular reason for getting up. Be it exercise, a hot coffee on the back deck, reading a book uninterrupted, yoga, a warm shower… Whatever it is that sparks a little fire in your belly – make that your reason to get up early.

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The Ultimate Bucket List

Every person has their own bucket list, at least in some shape or form, so I decided to help you out with another 55 things every person should do by the time they hit the bucket.

If these are not on yours make sure you consider adding at least some of them, if not all.

A true freedom seeker will always look to outgrow their comfort zone and live as much of a significant life as possible! Always challenge your surroundings, your current state and aim as high as your mind allows you! Then get to work towards making those dreams a reality!

Before we jump right into the 55 Things Every Person Should Do: The Ultimate Bucket List, I’d like to start with a quote that is perfect to get your mind racing towards all the amazing things you will do in your life:

A man who dares to waste one hour of time has not discovered the value of life.

55 Things Every Person Should Do: The Ultimate Bucket List

1. Buy your dream car in cash!

Imagine yourself walking into a dealership, seeing the car you’ve always wanted and paying cash for it. No debt, drive away in it!

2. Become healthy and have a fit body!

Your body is your temple, finally get the 6 pack you’ve always wanted!

3. Mentor someone and help them achieve greatness!

Helping others achieve their full potential is one of the biggest rewards one can achieve in his lifetime.

4. Go skydiving.

Jump out of a plane, preferably somewhere with a gorgeous view.

5. Live in your favorite city!

At least for a while and make sure it is as amazing as you thought it will be. If everything is great, buy a place there!

6. Go skinny dipping.

Preferably surrounded by gorgeous people doing the same.

7. Buy a Rolex watch and pass it on to your child.

Buying a Rolex watch is a symbol of success and it can be the great starting point for an ongoing tradition.

8. Go bungee jumping.

Get that blood rushing through your veins.

9. Build a school.

Have that kind of an impact on a community that will benefit on the long run of your kind gesture.

10. Learn to fly an airplane.

Enjoy the freedom the sky has to offer!

11. Build a treehouse for your kids.

Building it with your own hands and having them help will be a lifelong memory.

12. Buy a ticket on a plane that leaves the same day. Be spontaneous!

Check flights for today, pick a place and go. You’ll figure it out on the way!

13. Visit every continent.

Travel as much as possible, create memories and stories to tell others.

14. Learn to play an instrument really well.

Impress everyone with your skills and be proud you’ve done it since you’ve always wanted to.

15. Buy a motorcycle and enjoy it.

Hop on and enjoy the empty road.

16. Become really good at chess!

Chess is the sport of the mind, teach your kids to think a few steps ahead.

17. Throw a Great Gatsby party with a few hundred people showing up.

Try to get as many quality people as possible so it doesn’t turn into Project X.

18. Run a marathon.

Someone who finishes a marathon in their lifetime will have reduces risk of death from a heart attack.

19. Leave a £500 tip at your favorite restaurant.

Or even more if you’re feeling generous, that tip will have a big impact on someone who’s just starting out in life.

20. Drink beer at Oktoberfest in Germany.

If there’s one place and time to drink beer it is Oktoberfest!

21. Quit the job you hate.

Do it in style, you’re never going back there anyway!

22. Start your own business, even as a side gig.

It’s the challenge of creating a product or service that people are willing to pay for that is so exciting!

23. Fly in a private jet without posting 1 pic to Instagram!

If someone is flying private and doesn’t post to instagram do haters still hate?

24. Swim with the sharks.

If you survive that dealing with annoying people becomes a piece of cake.

25. Attend the Victoria’s Secret Fashion Show – and the after party. (If it happens again!)

Spend a night surrounded by some of the most beautiful women in the world.

26. Vacation somewhere without internet for at least one month with someone you love.

Removing yourself from all the technological pressure will do wonders to your mind-set and you will create amazing memories.

27. Learn to cook really well and have a signature dish.

Impress people with your cooking skills.

28. Race a formula 1 car.

Drive as fast as your mind allows you to.

29. Own a boat and throw a boat party.

Things can go wild in a private way when you have your own boat.

30. Create a custom drink that tastes amazing and name it after yourself.

What will you name yours? Leave the name in the comments below.

31. Get on the cover of an important magazine.

Get that recognition you deserve for all the hard work you’ve put in.

32. Hire someone.

That feeling of hiring someone and the entire process behind it is worth the time and patience.

33. Fire someone.

Not every hire will work out, man-up and lay someone off.

34. See the Aurora Borealis.

Be amazed by how beautiful nature can be by itself.

35. See all the Wonders of the World in person.

Both the old and the new Wonders of the World, you’ll be amazed by the beauty human kind has created so far.

36. Meet one of your heroes.

Get to meet someone that inspired you growing up and exchange stories.

37. Get to visit all the cities you used to dream of going to when you were little.

Jet-setting around the world meeting new people and trying new things.

38. Build your dream house.

It should meet your every need and make you feel like you belong there.

39. Attend the Super Bowl.

Fingers crossed, you can have your favorite team win.

40. Attend the Olympic Games.

See the best performing athletes in the world compete against each other.

41. Attend the World Cup.

Your home country should win.

42. Crash a wedding without having yourself thrown out.

Have people embrace you and make new friends.

43. Throw tomatoes during Spanish festival La Tomatina

Or at least take part in a major festival somewhere around the world.

44. Learn your family history and pass it on.

Have your family tree drawn as far as you can.

45. Save a life.

Nothing will be more rewarding that saving someone else’s life.

46. Have your portrait painted and framed.

Something to be remembered by.

47. Quit one addiction you didn’t believe you could quit.

Prove yourself that you can overcome anything if you set your mind to.

48. Meet the president or leader of your country.

Not only meet him, shake hands and have a little chat.

49. Fire big guns.

In a controlled environment of course e.g. clay pigeon shooting or paintballing.

50. Experience any drugs that will not kill you or do long term damage ONCE. (#contraversial)

Experiment and discover things you didn’t know about.

51. Write and publish a book.

Have something outlive you, share your wisdom with future generations.

52. Pack everything and go.

No destination needed! With the right person by your side it will be the most memorable trip ever.

53. Overcome your emotional struggles.

Come to peace with your inner self. After that life changes.

54. Find the love of your life.

Discover the one you wish to spend the rest of your life with, the one you seemed to be searching for your entire life.

A Final Thought - 55. Be happy.

Live a significant and happy life, surrounded by people that love and appreciate you.

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15 Lessons Learned From Failure

No matter what you do in life, things won’t always go your way, you’ll continuously face new challenges and it’s safe to say that you will fail more than once.

But here’s the valuable part: You failed because you tried something outside of your comfort zone!

Which means, you’re actually going in the right direction… You just don’t have all the tools yet.

With this type of mindset, we are ready to look at 15 lessons you learn when you fail!

1. Failure Teaches Humility
2. Other Approaches Might Work Better
3. Failure Matures You Emotionally
4. Failure Allows You to Try Again with New Information
5. You Can Still Fail at Everything and Still Win Big

6. Others Don’t Care about Your Failures as Much as You Think
7. Failure Shines a Light on Your Weaknesses
8. Failure Tests to See If You Really Want It
9. Failure Forces You to Get Creative
10. Failure Teaches That Life Goes on despite It

11. Failure Brings out the Truth in Those around You
12. Failure Teaches You to Self-Motivate
13. There Are Things You Can’t Control
14. Failure Always Comes before Success
15. Failure Is Final Only If You Quit Definitely

1. Failure Teaches Humility

I get it, you’ve had a couple of wins under your belt and now you feel like you’re the king of the world.

Enjoy success but don’t lose yourself in it!

That’s where failure comes in. It reminds you that there’s more out there to be conquered and about our limitations.

The paradox here is that: The more humble you can be despite your success, the more respect you earn from everybody else and failure is what drives that humility, so accept it for what it is, put your head down and get back to work!

2. Other Approaches Might Work Better

Life is more complicated than we think. There isn’t 1 universal key that opens all doors, despite what we would like to think.

Failure has the advantage of shining light onto one possible solution that didn’t work. You now have to try a different approach, thus forcing you to expand your skill set. Never limit your ability to overcome an obstacle to only the one idea that didn’t work.

There is more than one way to connect the dots!

Figure out what didn’t work and look for a lateral move.

3. Failure Matures You Emotionally

The same with humility, failure polishes who you are as a person. It gives you a better understanding of the world around you, what works, what doesn’t. It feeds you data based on the outcome and now you can adjust the way you behave in the world.

That’s what maturity is.

Maturity = understanding how the world works & how to navigate it!

Failure is just a crash course on maturity.

4. Failure Allows You to Try Again with New Information

The reason you failed is because you didn’t have enough information, enough skills, enough insight.

Believe it or not, you’re in a way better position to conquer this challenge now, than your competitors or even yourself before getting started.

You now have data to work with, maybe you invested some time or even capital resources into a project, but in return you got wisdom, and wisdom is expensive so don’t let it be a waste!

Use everything you now know and try again!

5. You Can Still Fail at Everything and Still Win Big

Here’s where things get super interesting. You can go from failure to failure and end up winning.

I know how counterintuitive this might sound, but it’s the difference between winning a battle versus winning the war.

Life is a lot easier than war, because generally speaking, you don’t die after pursuing a goal, which is nice!

Jokes aside, but this idea that you can fail at something which in turn pushes you towards something else, just like a game of pinball, shooting from failure to failure until you finally land on something that’s extraordinary for you.

All you have to do, is: Keep on failing at different things.

And you’ll notice life pushing you closer and closer to what you’re actually looking for.

There’s actually a phenomenal book titled: How to Fail at Almost Everything and Still Win Big by Scott Adams. It’s one of those books you don’t hear about much, but it offers a very valuable perspective in life. I strongly recommend it to anyone who doesn’t feel like they found “THEIR THING” yet.

6. Others Don’t Care about Your Failures as Much as You Think

One of the things that scares people the most about the possibility of failure, is how others will react.We’re all scared that we will make a fool of ourselves, that others will see our vulnerabilities and might even take jabs at us while we’re down.

This is why most people never try anything, they’re too scared of what other people will think or say.

Speaking as someone who’s failed multiple times: NOBODY CARES!

Up to a point where it’s a bit frustrating. You’d think more people would react in some way, but they’re not. You know why?

They’re too busy dealing with their own stuff!

This used to matter when you were a kid, when you were in highschool or younger, but as an adult, we’re all just trying to keep ourselves afloat while putting together a boat for ourselves.

7. Failure Shines a Light on Your Weaknesses

And this is more valuable than you think.

You failed because something didn’t go right, something didn’t go as plan, you simply weren’t enough at this point to make it happen.

Once the event is over and you understand that you have indeed failed, you can take a step back and look at what happened. Like a rewind or a post mortem for the whole event. Ask yourself these questions:

  • How did you prepare for this challenge?
  • What did you miss?
  • What would’ve made a difference?
  • What are those things that you could’ve done to prevent the failure?

While going through these questions, you’ll find that there are some weaknesses in your strategy or in your approach. 

Now you know what you’re missing! 

Either learn them or find someone whose strengths can cover up for your weaknesses!

8. Failure Tests to See If You Really Want It

Here’s the truth: not everybody can be successful, because success is very hard to achieve, it requires so much effort and sacrifice that almost all people out there would rather settle for less, because the price is too high to pay.

But there needs to be a reward for those who do push themselves and make it! That’s how you show the world you truly deserve it!

Every failure is just another pothole in the road that you have to overcome!

9. Failure Forces You to Get Creative

Here’s a valuable secret in life: creativity comes from the lack of resources. When you have everything at your disposal, you want to play it safe, because that’s probably your best option.

When you don’t have much, CREATIVITY IS YOUR ONLY OPTION!

..and that’s what failure does. It forces you to dig within yourself and pull out every drop of creative juice that will somehow get you going again. That’s why artists who are in pain make the best music, paint the best paintings and deliver their best work.

10. Failure Teaches That Life Goes on despite It

For some reason we have this idea stuck in our subconscious that one failure is eternal. That we’ll be labeled as such for our entire lives, but it’s wrong.

Maybe you did fail, it happened. The next morning when you wake up, guess what the world kept on spinning.

The world doesn’t care about you the way you think it does!

And…

Nobody cares about you the way YOU do!

It’s all in your mind, it’s all in your immediate reality. Let the world move on, regroup and then move with it. That’s why having a strong mindset is so damn valuable, it allows you not to be crushed by our own expectations.

11. Failure Brings out the Truth in Those around You

Failure comes with a lot of unique benefits that you couldn’t enjoy otherwise. One of them is the option to sample how people around you really feel.

In times of success you don’t get to see their true faces, because they’re all yes-men, trying to get as much from you as possible, it’s only when things go south that you get to see who’s willing to be next to you for the long run, who you can rely on and who has your back.

Pay attention!

12. Failure Teaches You to Self-Motivate

With a failure on your belt, your left only with yourself. You have to get yourself going once again and never underestimate just how powerful the ability to self-motivate is.

It’s the one thing that can make or break an individual. It’s a lot harder than you think and we have a massive amount of respect for everyone who’s been able to consistently perform well, because it takes so much strength to keep pushing yourself like this even when you don’t feel like it.

Once you know how your mind works and are able to push your own buttons, you become unstoppable!

13. There Are Things You Can’t Control

Sometimes you failed because you weren’t prepared enough, sometimes you failed because you didn’t understand that there are things you can’t control.

Very much like a beginner surfer, the waves will keep pushing you off the board, but once you learn this lesson and no longer fight the waves, you can slowly begin to understand their rhythm, their strength and eventually you’ll be able to ride them.

An even better metaphor for this is the one with the sailboat.

You might not be able to control the wind, but you can always adjust the sail!

14. Failure Always Comes before Success

There is the option of winning without ever facing failure, but it implies winning small.

If you want to win big, there’s always the possibility of failure on the table, that’s how the rules are set up.

The higher the climb, the better the view, but the longer the fall!

The thing is, one failure never stopped any successful person from achieving their goals eventually, so take this moment to think about your own situation and if you’re willing to move beyond this failure or not.

15. Failure Is Final Only If You Quit Definitely

The last point on this list, I believe ties them all together.

Failure is final only if you don’t -or can’t- try again!

That’s when REAL failure happens. When all that time, all those resources, go to waste.

I’ll be honest with you, you don’t want to fail, failure should never be an objective. You can only fail so many times, before you either run out of time or resources.

You want to be strategic with your tries in order to minimize the number of failures you experience in life so that you can afford to try again.

A Final Thought

Failure happens and if it does, everything in this post will serve you well, but I hope most of you will only have a brush with it on your way to success!

Which brings to the question of the day: Did you manage to overcome a personal failure? What did it feel like?

This is one of those questions where your answers can really add value to the community, become there’s definitely someone out-there going through exactly what you’ve been through who needs to hear your advice. You’re like a mentor to them and don’t even know it yet, and I can’t wait to read your comments on this!

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Daily gratitude is a gift to yourself

The journal is the writer’s greatest way of self-expression. Whether you keep a tiny moleskine in your pocket, or a glittery pink binder full of your most private thoughts under your bed; for all the imagination and excellence contained in your most intimate pages, there is one thing you’re all missing: gratitude.

I was 30 when a mentor recommended treating my depression by writing down three things every day that I was grateful for. I despised the idea, as most angsty teenagers despise anything an adult ‘suggests’, but ended up trying it one day when I was bored in class. The result was immediate, I couldn’t believe it. My mind filled with happy thoughts and hopes instantaneously, and it lasted for much of the day. Fast forward to now, and I’m redesigning the idea of a gratitude journal to encompass more than just three things.

I’ve gathered a mish-mash of ideas over time and have been steadily implementing them into my own journal everyday.

DISCLAIMER: I now use the daily greatness journal which already has predefined questions to ask. You can get your copy HERE, however, if you want to create your own journal, Here’s how:

1. The Daily Full-Page Gratitude

What would make today great?
List three things, each gets it’s own line.
(Ex) If I create a new work connection; If I I get to spend extra time with my significant other; If I feel relaxed instead of stressed all day.
 
Amazing things that happened today:
Again, three things that each get it’s own line.
(Ex) Watched an inspiring TedTalk, Made a really tasty and healthy lunch; Enjoyed some alone time where I got to read my favourite book.
 
Gratitude:
List three things you are grateful for.
(Ex) For discovering my love of Arbonne Essentials Herbal Tea; For my wonderful team members and their support; For the recovery of someone ill in my family.
 
Affirmation:
This is where you should devote at least two lines to self love. Everyday write something different, to remind yourself how incredible and special you are. It can be in first or third person, whichever you like most!
(Ex) You have so much ahead of you, so soon. See your potential, and let yourself have every little bit of happiness that you deserve.
How I could’ve made today better:
Here is a reflection on the things you did that day that didn’t really work out. Devote a few lines to writing down not necessarily the negatives of your day, but ways you could have gone about them differently.
(Ex) I tried to make a different protein shake for breakfast but it turns out I don’t like using frozen raspberries; I argued with someone when I shouldn’t have and it caused me stress; I should have gotten more fresh air and gone for walks today, etc.
 
You can be as specific and detailed as you want, and that’s often the best part! A gratitude journal is still an exercise in creativity. The first entry is to be written in the morning (as soon as possible), and the rest when your day is coming to a close. You’ll even find that writing your gratitude or amazing things as they happen doesn’t really work out, because more amazing things will top them as the day progresses!
 
Another exercise in gratitude comes from realising that everything you do is important and a reflection on who you are. This next list can be done from time to time, as often as you please, to help you realise that even when you think you’re doing nothing (or haven’t achieved as much as you’d hoped), you are always a buzzing beacon of self-expression and uniqueness. 
 
TIP: This can also be used to keep track of your work habits and moods. If you find that a particular habit you’re trying to break happens to come up whenever you’re seated at your desk for long conference calls, now you know, and it’s easier to break.

2. The List of Perpetual Indulgence

I am currently…
* Thinking
* Enjoying
* Feeling
* Wearing
* Needing
* Wanting
* Listening

Description is key here, it’s an exercise in imagination and reality. I used to this one mostly for the times when I was sitting on the couch watching TV, bored out of my mind, but it would work well for commuting on the train or any dull moments that seem to slow down your day. I start writing, and all of a sudden I remember that I’m not a couch potato, I’m a person wearing a striped dress and pink slippers daydreaming about the Santa Monica Pier and listening to My Top Songs 2019 playlist. Not so boring and simple now, huh? Even if you may be thinking, feeling, or wanting something negative, getting it all down in this form will help to blow off some steam without ranting about it – that usually just cements the feeling.

A Final Thought

Daily gratitude is a gift to yourself, so everyday don’t forget to keep on giving. Everybody’s self love tank needs a little refilling now and then.

Do you have a journal or gratitude practice that you’d like to share? Let us know!

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5 Brutal TRUTHS You Don’t Want To Hear (Part 3)

Life doesn’t come with an instruction manual, so here are the last 5 brutal truths which people never give enough time to address, these are the things most people tend to brush off under the carpet and pretend that these just don’t exist, because it’s easier this way.

The original posts are here:  5 Brutal Truths You Don’t Want To Hear  and   Another 5 Brutal TRUTHS You Don’t Want To Hear

11: Happiness comes from what you do for others

Most people you’ll meet in this life, all are out for themselves. Everyone is trying as hard as they can to make themselves happy, successful or whatever their own definition of success is.

The hard truth on happiness, is that you can not achieve sustainable happiness by being the single person impacted by your actions. You can achieve glimpses of happiness, but they will not stick around. 

Happiness doesn’t come from things, it comes from the way other people feel! 

Which happen to brush off onto you, especially if you’re the one who created their happiness in the first place.

This is such a strong truth, because people fail to realise this until late in life, everyone is pursuing their own happiness and even if they get all the money in the world, all the fame in the world they realise they still haven’t got it yet and it leads to depression or even worse.

This happens because the entire concept is counter intuitive, while in most life objectives you need to take care of yourself before you can take care of anyone else, when it comes to happiness the world seems to be flipped, you take care of others and the result is you taking care of yourself.

Let that sink in for a while and then have a look at your own life:

  • Are you happy?
  • What generated this particular happiness?
  • Who is responsible for it?
  • Which actions led to your state of happiness?
  • When’s the last time you made someone happy?

The answers to all these questions will give you a better understanding of your own happiness and which actions caused it.

Once you know that, hunt that feeling and get to it as close as possible.

12: Being busy doesn’t mean you’re doing anything worthwhile

Please.. remember.. This!!! 

Write it big on your vision board or somewhere you will be constantly reminded to check your reality.

Being busy does not mean you’re adding value to your life or to those around you.

One of the most shocking things we’ve learned is our research is how many people are constantly busy but never manage to move the needle ahead for their own.

This has to do with people allotting way more time and resources than needed to things which are URGENT but NOT IMPORTANT!

We understand you need to clean the house and get toilet paper from the store, but if that’s what keeps you busy every single day you won’t have any time to get anything done that actually has an impact on your life.

The most important pillars in someone’s life are health, relationships, self-development & freedom with security.

If an action doesn’t fall into these 4 in a positive way it’s probably not important for you and those around you.

We all have things that we have to get done, things that put food on the table and more, the idea is to escape the trap of doing only those things and never getting around for the really important ones.

When’s the last time you did something important for yourself? Maybe it’s time to prioritise those and stop wasting time.

Related blog post: Is Being Busy A Choice Or A Curse?

13:Everyone you know will eventually die, including yourself.

This is probably the most important reality check you’ll ever get while you’re alive.

It’s one of the harshest truths we all have to deal with at some point in our lives. Your mother, your father, your siblings, your dog, your loved ones & you, are mortal and at one point every single one will cease to exist.

This alone is a strong enough reason to appreciate everything you have in your life! Holding grudges is stupid, deal with the tiny problems and don’t forget to tell anyone who’s important to you how much you care for them and how important they are to you.

Mend your relationships, especially with those who made a difference in your journey because you might not get a second chance to do so.

After your relationships affairs are in a good place, it’s time to get serious about your life.

YOU WILL DIE ONE DAY!

So why the hell do you want to live a boring life?

You should do whatever is in your power to create the life you want to live, because you only get this one!

It doesn’t matter if you believe in heaven or not, why wouldn’t you make heaven here on Earth? Especially for you and those around you.

There aren’t any higher goals that living a live that meant something and which added value to the world as we know it.

Related blog post: Find Beauty In The Little Things

14: Your urgent problems won’t matter 5 years from now

You know the test you have next week, the project you’re rushing to complete, the fact that your contractor is late on your latest development project, all of them stress you out and open the door for emotions to take control.

What we’re about to tell you can easily change your life if you pay attention and save this tool in your arsenal for success.

Here it goes:

Ask yourself if what you are stressing about today, will matter in 5 years from now.

If yes, then it’s time to get even more serious about it and make sure you get it right.

On the other hand, if you’re not even going to remember it in 5 years, why the hell are we spending so much time and resources on it, just get it done so you can move on to more important things.

The 5 Year rule can help you understand which actions are in your best interest and remove at least some noise from your life if used correctly.

It’s one of those tools that look simple enough but very few people actually take the time to use it and that’s how you end up trapped in a rat race.

Related blog posts: Creating A 5 Year Plan

15: You are a tiny organism, on a rock, floating through space

On our final item on this list, we want to double down on this idea that daily struggles steal away your life from you without giving much back.

The truth is you are not special, you are an organism which shares this floating rock with another 8 billion who are just like you and another 70 billion living things who don’t even know you exist.

There is a concept which we truly find fascinating called: THE OVERVIEW EFFECT

It’s something that astronauts get to experience when leaving Earth and looking back at it from a distance. Once you’re in space, you can see how tiny the entire world is, how we’re all in conflict for things which do not matter, and from a nihilistic point of view, individuals don’t matter.

You are part of an entire living colony which doesn not care about the problems of the individual because they don’t really matter. They matter to you, but not the colony.

It’s one of those things we plan on experiencing before we die, because the overview effect changes the way you look at things, at worries, at problems, at disappointments and more.

Look at the left of the screen right now, this is our planet viewed from space, you are somewhere on this rock a tiny dot that worries about the smallest details which from this far up are non existent.

Try to run this experiment on your own and see what you can uncover about yourself.

A Final Thought

It’s time we all stopped thinking so small, faced the harsh truths of life, accept those which we can accept and do our best to live a life that’s valuable.

 I’m curious to know Freedom Seekers, which of these 5 brutal truths above had the biggest impact on you as you were reading?

Which of these do you believe will actually make a change in your future actions?

Let me know in the comments, I’ll do my best to engage the most interesting ones..

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With that said, I will see you all in the next one.

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Abundant Vs Scarcity Mindset

Let’s talk about two buzz words: scarcity and abundance.

They’re thrown around a lot, and a lot of what is shared isn’t true.

I want to sort of set the record straight with this blog post and share my take on two oh so important terms that will no doubt change your life if you use them.

So, let’s dive right by defining scarcity and abundance…

An Abundant Mindset

An abundant mindset means there is always enough.

  • There’s more than enough time
  • There’s more than enough money
  • There’s more than enough energy
  • There’s more than enough opportunity for you and everyone else
  • You feel lucky
  • You welcome competition
  • You design your life from your future without knowing how to do it
  • You come from a place of giving
  • There’s always enough

The abundant mindset is based in more than enough and a feeling like your life is happening for you.

This doesn’t mean you don’t have problems, feel pain, or have all the ups and downs that everyone else has. It means that you think about all those things very differently than someone with a scarcity mindset.

A Scarcity Mindset

A scarcity mindset means there is never enough.

  • There’s not enough time
  • There’s not enough money
  • There’s not enough energy
  • There’s not enough opportunity for you
  • You’re very unlucky
  • You fear competition
  • You repeat your past over and over
  • You don’t have enough to give
  • There’s not enough fill-in-the-blank

The scarcity mindset is based on fear and feeling like your life is happening to you.

Scarcity is ripe with defensiveness and righteousness. You can seem to be very in control and strong and have a scarcity mindset. The strength comes from an effort to control your life because you’re afraid of what will happen if you don’t.

My Story

I used to have a scarcity mindset and seemed very in control. This was confusing to me at first because I didn’t understand how I could be so strong and in control but have a scarcity mindset. Oh, but did I live in righteousness, control, fear, and fairness. When I started to do this work and let go of all these unsupported beliefs, I became much happier. Not only that, but all the wonderful characteristics of an abundant mindset fell into place. I love more, I’m generous, I believe there’s enough opportunity everywhere, and I know my life is happening for me. It’s a beautiful thing.

If you’re not there yet, don’t be hard on yourself. Awareness is the first step to making the change you want.

I have a list of 7 action steps you can take right now to start to change from a scarcity mindset to an abundant one. This is how I started my change, too.

7 ACTION STEPS TO TAKE RIGHT NOW TO CHANGE YOUR MINDSET

If you want to change your mindset from a victimy scarcity mindset, do these actions.

1. Write for 15 minutes straight

Anytime you feel a certain way that you don’t like (or are feeling scarcity), write for 15 minutes straight without lifting your pen (or fingers from the keyboard)! Don’t judge yourself during this exercise. Just write.

E.g.: You’re having a bad day. Write for 15 minutes straight about the thoughts you’re having. Then review what you wrote.

When you do this, you’ll be able to see how your thoughts directly cause your feelings. You’ll be able to separate you from your thoughts and recognize it’s just your brain. You’ll discover the magic between changing your thoughts to support the life you want.

2. Create a list of the new beliefs you want to adopt.

Make a list of your ideal beliefs. These should be specific. For example:

  • I am going to make £10k per month blogging by the end of this year.
  • I am going to be a full time blogger.
  • I can make £1M from my blog next year.

This list can be for anything – health, career, money, relationships, etc.

Then, make a list of laddered thoughts from where you are now to where you want to go (these should be thoughts that transition you from your current thinking to the thinking you want).

E.g.: I haven’t made £10k per month yet, but I know that it is possible that one day I could.

Whatever the neutral thought is, the key is that you have to actually believe it to be true. Practice your thoughts daily.

3. Ask yourself one question every day that supports your thinking.

As I mentioned above, questions are the secret ninja tip that will change your beliefs without much effort on your part.

Choose one question you want based on the area you want to change in your life.

Here are examples:

  • What thoughts can I think to support my happiness and success?
  • How can I be happier tomorrow?
  • How can I accomplish my goal?
  • How can I lose 10 lbs?
  • How can I become a full time blogger?
  • How can I work for XYZ company?

4. Make a list of the emotions you consistently feel versus the emotions you want to consistently feel.

Since most of us don’t manage how we think, we aren’t deciding how we want to feel either.

Make a list of the top 2-5 emotions you feel regularly (e.g.: anxious, stressed, and worried).

Then, make a list of the top 2-5 emotions you want to feel (e.g.: loving, generous, and ambitious).

Notice that you may want to feel different emotions for different areas of your life (your relationships compared to your work).

This awareness and being intentional alone will help you start to change your life.

5. Create a vision board with images that inspire the beliefs you want to manifest in your life.

Vision boards work because they help you focus on something you want to create in your life.

You can create a vision board digitally on Pinterest or Canva or a good ole fashioned paper and magazine board.

Imagine if you started scrolling through your Pinterest Vision Board every morning with things that inspired you to create in the future instead of scrolling through your Instagram feed? #gamechanger.

6. Make a list of daily intentions.

Think of your dreams as a plant. The plant is the life you want to design. All day, weeds grow around the plant. At the end of the day, you need to pull the weeds so that the plant can grow so you can still see it. If you don’t pull the weeds, your plant will start to look like the weeds and you’ll lose sight of it.

To make sure you’re living in a proactive place where you’re designing your dream life from an abundant mindset instead of a reactive state where you’re putting out fires and living other people’s dreams, do the following:

  • Write down what your dream life looks like.
  • Write down your why.
  • Write down your purpose for living.
  • Write down what’s most important to you.
  • Look at this every day. Forever.

I am thinking of creating a 10 Minute Morning Checklist for you to do this. Do you think it’s a good idea?

There is always going to be a lot thrown at you every day. You have to be clear about your life. You have to decide what you want. Then, you have to set up systems to focus and remember those dreams every day.

7. Ask “What am I thinking?” daily.

Your thoughts and beliefs create all the results you have in your life. To change those 60,000 thoughts you have daily, you’re going to need to figure out what’s going on in your head.

Make it a daily practice that you ask yourself “what am I thinking?”

You’ll start to separate yourself from your thoughts and realize you are not your thoughts. There is enormous power in this.

A Final Thought

Abundance is when you give up the story of lack, and you believe you can have whatever it is you want.

What’s good and what’s bad is just a story. What’s possible and what’s impossible is just a story.

So while you’re entertaining 60,000+ thoughts per day, why not tell amazing, supportive, abundant stories?

I decided to think that I would have enough and I would have more than enough, and more than enough is available to me. So instead of looking at the women who “had it all” and thinking that wasn’t available to me, I decided I was someone that already had it all, and I could have more.

Abundance is thinking you have enough. And you can always get more. You can get what you want.

Abundance isn’t even enough. It’s so much that enough isn’t in the equation.

Abundance isn’t something that our brains are wired to think. It takes work. Serious work!

If you use the steps above, you can actually shift your thinking and create new results in your future.

It’s amazing stuff.

It worked for me, and I can’t tell you how much better my life is because of it.

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5 Brutal TRUTHS You Don’t Want To Hear (Part 2)

Life doesn’t come with an instruction manual, so here are another 5 brutal truths which people never give enough time to address, these are the things most people tend to brush off under the carpet and pretend that these just don’t exist, because it’s easier this way.

The original post is here: 5 BRUTAL TRUTHS YOU DON’T WANT TO HEAR

6: Thinking & Doing are not the same thing

How many people have you heard saying they plan on doing something but never deliver on that promise?

How many people say they have ideas but never seen any put to action.

Life is about putting your actions where your mouth is! And it’s time to stop lying to yourself, the world is split between people who say they’re going to do something and those that actually get the job done!

You might not like to hear this, but everyone can talk and if you’ve lived long enough, you know that talk is cheap.

You are in this for yourself and the worst thing you can do is to start believing your own lies.

The world rewards those that get things done, so if you have any plans to make a difference in this short lifetime of yours it’s time to cut the crap and get busy.

Don’t get me wrong, I like the book The Secret, which say that all you have to do is: think about what you want and the universe or some mystical power will provide you with exactly that, you don’t need to do anything else. However, if positive thinking is your plan to success you better hope you get really really lucky, otherwise you’ll be faced by a very harsh reality.

Positive thinking is actually a WISH, something you WISH happened with putting as little effort towards it as possible. You are in the same camp as 4 leaf clovers, shooting stars and santa.

With the proper discipline & hard work behind it, a WISH can become A PLAN, but it doesn’t work the other way around.

You should stay positive, you should be optimist about the future, you need to believe in yourself, believe that you have a real shot at getting it and then take massive amounts of action over extended periods of time while making a great deal of sacrifices.

You might not realise this before this article, but everyone wants to be successful, only the best players of this game get to win it.

7: Money, Fame & Success can make you happy

The truth is your life would be a lot better if you had a lot more money in the bank than you have right now.

Your sex life would be a lot better if you were famous & you would feel a lot better about your life if you were a successful person, no matter what success means to you.

Anyone who says otherwise is lying or probably stupid. Money, Fame & Success are tools which you can use to become anything you want. If you want to donate your wealth to the underprivileged and live as a monk in the himalayas, you get to do that, if you want to travel the world and discover different cultures, ideas & ideologies , that is also an option.

Success means you have options!

You are not constrained by your reality, you can say NO or YES when you feel like it.

Although money doesn’t buy your happiness it can buy positive experiences for you and those you care about, which used correctly will evolve into personal happiness.

Stop villainizing successful people just because they live better lives than you!

8: Life is a competition

Most people never accept this because they believe they can’t win, so they try to change the rules so that everyone gets a participation trophy. Yuck!

The most beautiful thing is when they realise that what goes around doesn’t always come back around, that some people never get theirs, that people who you think were bullies were actually just playing the game and you were just underperforming.

Just because you think someone isn’t worthy of success based on your own idea of reality doesn’t mean they’re not ahead of you.

In the words of the mythical internet: DON’T HATE THE PLAYER, HATE THE GAME!

Guess what, in life you’ll meet a lot of people who you’d think they are assholes just because you don’t like the way they are behaving, unfortunately for you, they’re still playing within the rules of the game.

The truth is you’re comparing yourself to the wrong person.

Life is a competition, but it’s a competition against yourself, against the hard reality that you’re either going to be a successful person or fade away into mediocrity. It’s all up to you how you’re about to play the game.

Your best option is to spend as much time as you can studying the rules of the game and then play the rulebook and not against other people.

Who cares how many people are in the race if the only person that matters from your perspective is yourself. Make sure you with that race with your previous self and keep on growing until you win!

9: Everyone is wearing different masks depending on the occasion – including yourself.

Your personality is the sum of your experiences up to this point!

If your upbringing was slightly different you would’ve have been a completely different person, the world sees us as we choose to present ourselves.

We are all playing roles when engaging with others, we try to put our best foot forward, we want to be liked and people be interested in the things that we find fascinating. We share our hobbies, our interests and always try to find common ground with others so that they will accept us.

Take the time to analyze the way you behave around different people, the way your personality subtlety changes and you present yourself in a slightly different light.

Why do we do that as humans?

It all boils down to our survival instincts, we want to survive so we’ll do whatever it takes to further our own agenda.
You want the best for yourself don’t you? Well, guess what, everybody does and some people take themselves very seriously.

Be careful who you keep around you as most of them will show only a mask, only to disappear from your life when your journeys no longer share the same destination.

How many childhood friends you don’t keep in touch with, because you no longer have anything in common with them?

Without even knowing it, people wear masks throughout their lives switching from one to another, that’s why authenticity has become such a luxury in this day and age, because everybody is trying to be someone else and very few are successful by being themselves.

10: The Poor Stay Poor Because they never try to learn

Being born in a broke environment is a matter of chance, BUT dying broke is a matter of choice!

Poor people behave differently than the middle class and the rich, they have different habits, they find more excuses, they might have been dealt a tougher hand to begin with, but they call it quits as soon as they can and accept their current reality as destiny without giving it their all to improve the current situation.

In order for anyone to achieve financial success they need a particular set of tools which to our surprise most people never get ever research and acquire them.

These tools can make anyone rich, can get anyone the life they want if used to their fullest potential.

Although a good starting hand helps a lot, you can still do it even if you’ve been dealt an unfairly bad one.

These tools guarantee success. They are called learningdisciplinecreativity & hard work!

When poor people think of education, they immediately associate the term with expensive MBAs or Universities reserved for the super rich. The truth is you can learn more about success in life by studying successful people, by reading their stories and looking for patterns in their behavior.

If you go through our entire library of videos on successful people, you’ll find that almost all of them never stop learning, they’re all disciplined as hell, they use their creative juices as much as possible and they’ve been putting in hard work since they can remember without planning to stop anytime soon.

It’s all about the decision, that I will do whatever it takes to create a better life for myself and those I care about. After that, give it your all.

The irony is, poor people stay poor because they’re acting like they’re rich and the rich get richer because they keep acting like they’re poor.

A Final Thought

I have another 5 brutal truths coming in the next few weeks, but for now I’m curious to know Freedom Seekers, which of these 5 brutal truths above had the biggest impact on you as you were reading?

Which of these do you believe will actually make a change in your future actions?

Let me know in the comments, I’ll do my best to engage the most interesting ones..

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With that said, I will see you all in the next one.

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5 Brutal TRUTHS You Don’t Want to Hear (Part 1)

Life doesn’t come with an instruction manual, so here are some brutal truths which people never give enough time to address, these are the things most people tend to brush off under the carpet and pretend that these just don’t exist, because it’s easier this way.