Confidence • Money • Personal Growth • Everyday Life
Nefe Oguntoye street style portrait
Nefe Oguntoye retro glamour portrait
Hello, I’m Nefe.

A Little Bit Practical, A Little Bit Dreamy.

I’ve spent a lot of my life being the responsible one — planning, organising, figuring things out and trying to make sensible decisions.

But a good life isn’t only about doing everything “right.” It’s also about confidence, joy, money, rest, curiosity, home, meaningful work and creating a life that actually feels like yours.

Good coffee · good conversations · a life with a little more intention

I originally created this space around confidence and coaching, because I kept coming back to the same question: why do so many capable women still doubt themselves?

The more I explored it, the more I realised confidence doesn’t exist in isolation. It shows up in how we manage our money, how we work, how we set boundaries, how we look after ourselves and how willing we are to build a life that may look different from the one we thought we were supposed to have.

These days, I’m less interested in becoming the “perfect” version of myself — and much more interested in becoming the most honest, confident and content version of myself.

That’s what this website has become too: a place for thoughtful conversations about personal growth without pretending life is always polished. Practical money conversations without shame. Routines that support real life. Career thoughts. Home. Wellbeing. Confidence. And all the small things that make an ordinary week feel a little better.

You won’t find a perfectly curated life here. You will find someone who is still learning, changing her mind, dreaming big, making spreadsheets, drinking coffee and trying to build a life she genuinely enjoys living.

Nefe relaxing in a pastel lounge
A little more about me
Nefe in joyful pastel colours

Currently

Watching:
the office... my 100th time!
Drinking:
a cappuccino, obviously
Reading:
matilda, I love that book!!
Working on:
making life simpler
Thinking:
about the next big holiday
Listening:
whatever matches my mood today

My Favourite Things

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Nefe with her family

My home base.
I’m the eldest of four and the only girl, so family has always been a huge part of my life. They know every version of me, and however noisy life gets, I wouldn’t have it any other way.

My person.
Ian has been beside me through some of the happiest, hardest and most unexpected chapters of my life. We laugh, annoy each other, dream big and keep choosing to do life together.

Nefe and Ian together
my happy place!
Nefe with friends

The family I got to choose.
I’m grateful for friendships that have lasted through different jobs, cities and seasons. The kind where you can pick up where you left off, laugh until your stomach hurts and know the love is still there.

Nefe playful summer portrait

This or That

Where I stand on the truly important stuff…

Coffee
Beach
Early bird
Spreadsheet
Sweet
Minimalist
Stay in
Tea
City break
Night owl
No spreadsheet
Savoury
Colour everywhere
Depends on my mood
A note I keep coming back to:
“You are allowed to build a life that makes sense to you, even when it doesn’t look like the life everyone else expected.”
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Nefe celebrating in a colourful setting
did we just become internet friends?

If you like conversations about confidence, money, personal growth and figuring out everyday life as we go, you’ll probably feel quite at home here.

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