*****
Services
Resources
Blog + Podcast
Shop
- Cart
- Checkout
- My account
About

Cart

Your cart is currently empty.

Be like coffee: grounded, bold, and quietly powerful – Nefe Oguntoye ⭐ Be like coffee: grounded, bold, and quietly powerful – Nefe Oguntoye ⭐ Be like coffee: grounded, bold, and quietly powerful – Nefe Oguntoye ⭐ Be like coffee: grounded, bold, and quietly powerful – Nefe Oguntoye ⭐ Be like coffee: grounded, bold, and quietly powerful – Nefe Oguntoye ⭐ Be like coffee: grounded, bold, and quietly powerful – Nefe Oguntoye ⭐ Be like coffee: grounded, bold, and quietly powerful – Nefe Oguntoye ⭐ Be like coffee: grounded, bold, and quietly powerful – Nefe Oguntoye ⭐

Nefe Oguntoye confidence coach and personal development mentor helping women build confidence and clarity

Your Coach Nefe

Helping women build confidence, trust themselves, and take up space — without overthinking every step.

Work With Me

1:1 Coaching

Programmes

Workshops

Resources

Explore

About

Podcast

Blog

Contact

Popular Topics

Confidence & Mindset

Personal Growth

Career & Life Direction

Money & Life Confidence

Based in London, working with clients across the UK, the United States, Nigeria, and globally.

London energy is magic, but by Wednesday, it can f

London energy is magic, but by Wednesday, it can feel like a heavy trench coat you’re struggling to carry. ☕

The truth is, many of us spend mid-week battling the silent twins: burnout and imposter syndrome. We’re sprinting to keep up while questioning if we’ve truly earned our seat at the table.

Let’s be honest: hustle isn’t a badge of honour if it costs you your internal peace.

Wednesday doesn’t need more "push"; it needs a "Gentle Reset." Confidence isn't about moving faster; it’s about moving with alignment and taking up space. It’s stripping away the doubt to remember who you are beneath the city noise.

If you’re feeling the weight of self-doubt, my Identity & Confidence Coaching helps you rebuild self-belief from the inside out, so you can lead with clarity instead of exhaustion. ✨

Be honest: are you feeling the rush or the reset today? 👇🏾

Stay confident,
Nefe

Find more tools here:
👉 https://nefeoguntoye.com/resources

#ConfidenceCoach #LondonEnergy #MindsetShift #AmbitiousWomen

Image description: A professional woman enjoying a quiet moment in a sunlit café with a cup of coffee. Authentic lifestyle photograph.

We often talk about personal branding like a wardr

We’ve been sold a lie that if we just hustle harde

We’ve been sold a lie that if we just hustle harder, the confidence will eventually show up. ☕

You know the feeling: waiting to feel ‘ready’ before you pitch that client or step into that room. You think confidence follows success.

But here’s the thing: Confidence isn’t a byproduct of your results. It’s the strategy that creates them.

The truth is, hustle is reactive. It’s like running on a treadmill because you’re afraid to stop. Confidence-Led Growth is intentional. It’s about levelling up from self-trust, not desperation, and choosing to take up space before you feel 100% prepared.

When you lead with confidence, your actions become magnetic. You’re being more, not just doing more. Let’s stop waiting for the ‘feeling’ and start building the strategy.

Ready for clarity? Grab my Wheel of Life Worksheet to start moving with intention.

👉 https://nefeoguntoye.com/resources

Be honest : where are you holding yourself back today? 👇🏾

#ConfidenceCoaching #FemaleEntrepreneurs #GrowthMindset #NefeOguntoye

Image description: A high-quality, authentic lifestyle photograph of a confident, diverse professional woman working at a laptop in a bright, modern café with natural, warm lighting.

How many times have you hit ‘delete’ because you d

How many times have you hit ‘delete’ because you didn't want to seem like you were “bragging”? ☕

We’re often taught that humility is a virtue, but the truth is, it’s usually just a mask for the fear of being seen. We stay quiet to keep others comfortable, tucking away our wins like they are something to be ashamed of.

But here’s the thing: Your silence serves no one.

When you hide your progress, you deprive others of the evidence they need that growth is possible. Owning your wins out loud isn't an ego trip: it’s creating a roadmap for the woman a few steps behind you.

The “Unhumble” Shift is about seeing visibility as a service. It’s taking up space so others know they have permission to do the same. It’s about being brave enough to be seen levelling up.

Be honest: where are you holding yourself back because you’re afraid of looking “too proud”? 👇🏾

If you’re ready to stop playing small and master your internal narrative, find the tools to help you here:
👉 https://nefeoguntoye.com/resources

#ConfidenceCoach #Unhumble #Visibility #GrowthMindset

Ever spent way too long waiting for a ‘yes’ that n

Ever spent way too long waiting for a ‘yes’ that never came? 🙋🏾‍♀️

I’ve been there. Waiting for the invite, waiting for the seat at the table, waiting for someone to finally say, “Nefe, you’re ready.”

But here’s the truth I’ve learned: if they haven’t invited you to the table, it’s usually because you’re meant to build your own. 🔨✨

In this week’s episode of Cappuccinos & Confidence, we’re talking about the power of self-validation. It’s not about being ‘aggressive’ or ‘pushy’: it’s about recognising that your value isn’t determined by a guest list you didn’t create.

Building your own path is about:
✨ Recognising your own magic before anyone else does.
✨ Turning ‘no’ into ‘not here, but somewhere better.’
✨ Taking action even when you feel like an outsider.

Stop waiting for permission to be powerful. The table you build will always have a better view anyway. 😉

Have you ever had to forge your own path? Tell me a tiny win you’ve had recently! 👇🏿

Catch the full episode on the podcast or grab some growth tools at https://nefeoguntoye.com/resources

#CappuccinosAndConfidence #SelfTrust #ConfidenceCoach #BuildingYourOwnPath

Who decided January was the only time for a fresh

Who decided January was the only time for a fresh start? ☕✨

January always feels a bit… heavy. It’s all that "new year, new me" pressure while we’re still recovering from the festive season. But April? April is different.

The sun is sticking around, the flowers are blooming, and there’s a genuine buzz of renewal in the air. It’s the perfect time for a soul audit: without the frantic energy of trying to change your entire life by Tuesday.

Think of it as a chance to look at how Q1 actually went and adjust your sails. Are you still aligned with your goals? Or have you been running on autopilot while your coffee gets cold? 🙋🏾‍♀️

I’m spending my morning in this cafe, running through my own Wheel of Life Worksheet to see where I need to pour a bit more focus. Self-trust isn’t about being perfect; it’s about realising you can pivot whenever things feel off.

Grab your Wheel of Life Worksheet at nefeoguntoye.com/resources and let’s start this quarter with clarity. 💛

What’s one tiny win you’ve had so far this month? 👇🏿

#AprilReset #ConfidenceCoach #PersonalGrowth #NefeOguntoye

Ever felt like you had to be the loudest person in

Ever felt like you had to be the loudest person in the room just to be heard? 🙋🏾‍♀️

Nefe here! I used to think commanding a space meant having the sharpest elbows or the loudest voice. But honestly? That’s exhausting. And it’s definitely not sustainable.

True power isn’t about noise. It’s about calm assertiveness. ✨

It’s that grounded feeling of knowing your value before you even open your mouth. It’s holding your space without feeling the need to defend it. It’s recognising that your peace is just as important as your presence.

Think of it like your favourite cappuccino, strong and impactful, but smooth. ☕

You don’t need to perform. You just need to be. (And yes, that includes the days when your inner voice feels a bit shaky: we’ve all been there!) When you lead from a place of self-trust, the room naturally settles to meet you.

Commanding the room shouldn't cost you your peace. It should be an extension of it. 💛

How are you showing up with calm assertiveness this week? Tell me one way you’re holding your space! 👇🏿

Find more resources to help you step into your power at https://nefeoguntoye.com/resources

#CalmAssertiveness #SelfTrust #WomenInLeadership #NefeOguntoye

I used to dread looking at my bank balance. ☕️ It

I used to dread looking at my bank balance. ☕️

It wasn't just about the numbers: it was about the feeling that I wasn't "good with money" or that someone else was better qualified to steer the ship.

But here’s the truth: Stepping into the role of 'Household CFO' isn’t about being a maths whizz. It’s an act of radical self-trust. ✨

It’s deciding that you are the best person to lead your life and your legacy. It’s about clarity, not just spreadsheets. When you own your financial story, you stop asking for permission to grow and start taking up space.

Whether it’s managing the family budget, investing in your business, or simply being intentional with your morning cappuccino spend: you are in the driver's seat. 🙋🏾‍♀️

It’s about moving from "I hope this works out" to "I am making this happen."

That’s where the real confidence lives. Not in a perfectly balanced ledger, but in the trust you have in your own decision-making. 💛

I'm Nefe, and I'm here to help you back yourself. What’s one way you’ve stepped into your power this week? 👇🏿

Find more tools here: nefeoguntoye.com/resources

#FinancialConfidence #SelfTrust #AmbitiousWomen #NefeOguntoye

Ever wonder why you have the perfect strategy, the

Ever wonder why you have the perfect strategy, the five-year plan, and the 'to-do' list from heaven... but you’re still feeling stuck? 🧐

The truth is, strategy without mindset is like a car without fuel. You can have the most beautiful vehicle in the world, but if the engine isn’t primed, you aren’t going anywhere.

In my latest blog post, "Why Mindset Coaching is the Missing Link," I’m diving deep into why the internal work is the secret sauce to making those big external moves. 🚀

Stop waiting for the "perfect time" and start building the self-belief that makes any time the right time.

Check out the link in bio to read more! ✨

#MindsetCoaching #ConfidenceCoach #NefeOguntoye #AmbitiousWomen

You’ve got the 12-step strategy. The aesthetic pla

You’ve got the 12-step strategy. The aesthetic planner is filled out. The high-level roadmap is ready to go.

But something still feels… off.

It’s that nagging whisper that creeps in when you’re about to hit ‘send’ or ‘launch’.
"What if I can't actually deliver?"
"What if they find out I'm just winging it?" 🙋🏾‍♀️

We spend so much time obsessing over the ‘how’ that we completely forget about the ‘who’.

Strategy is the map, but self-belief is the fuel. Without it, you’re just sitting in a very expensive car with no petrol. It’s simply not going to move, no matter how shiny the dashboard is.

Bridging that gap is where the magic happens. It’s moving from knowing what to do to actually believing you’re the one who can do it.

I’m diving deep into this on the blog today. We’re talking about why mindset coaching isn’t just a ‘nice to have’: it’s the missing link to your next level of growth. ☕✨

Catch the full post: "Why Mindset Coaching is the Missing Link" over at nefeoguntoye.com/resources.

What’s one area where your strategy is ready, but your self-belief is still catching up? 👇🏿

#ConfidenceCoach #MindsetShift #AmbitiousWomen #PersonalGrowth

PRIVACY POLICY | TERMS OF USE | REFUND POLICY | 2 TIMOTHY 1:7

COPYRIGHT © 2019-2026. NEFE OGUNTOYE | THEME BY LOVELY CONFETTI, edited by Nefe | As an Amazon Associate, I earn from qualifying purchases